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Weight Loss:  It's Not About Will-Power

Do any of the below statements sound familiar?

"If only you had more will-power."  (outside attack)

"If only I had more will-power."  (inside attack)

"If you really wanted to lose weight, you would." 

"I suppose if I really wanted to lose weight, I would.  What's wrong with me?"

"Mommy just can't seem to say no sweets." 

"I wish I had more will-power!  I can't stand being fat!"

What do all the above statements have in common besides a world of pain? They all have a lie in common. 

The lie is that weight loss is all about having enough will-power.  All dieter's know, or more precisely feel (and there is a big difference) that they don't have enough will-power (the proof is in their past failures). 

This is why diet pills, diet programs, diet patches and every other diet scam under the sun sell so well: Their products are will-power substitutes!

Look, before you decide to spend any more of your hard-earned money* on any weight loss program, weight loss diets, weight loss supplements or diet pills, ask yourself this question: "How much worse do I feel after spending money on a product I feel won't work....and doesn't?"

You would not believe how many people pay for my Hypnosis for Weight Loss class and before the class even starts they are already convinced it won't work!

What a terrible feeling of doom.  What a terrible thing to take that last, whispering flame of Hope and invest it in something you feel convinced won't work.  What does that lead to?  More self-blame, self-recrimination, binge eating, self-loathing, loathing of others (we can only treat others as we treat ourselves) and on and on it goes.

You know what's funny is take a moment and look at the amount of will power it takes to convince oneself of a truth about something that hasn't even happened yet!  Oh sure, people base their future behavior on past behavior all the time even though they are lying to themselves. 

As Tony Robbins says: "The past does not equal the future." 

Now, unless you have your head in the sand and your butt in the air, here's the truth you'd better get used to:  Everyday, in some way, you are learning or doing something that you did not do yesterday.  Right??

So who the hell says you can't learn and do something new, no matter how small, tomorrow?  Or the day after?  Or the day after that? 

What would happen (please really imagine this), what would happen if you added up a year's worth of tiny, daily changes?  Hmmm....in one year you would be a remarkably different person.

Now, here's the crucial, you-must-listen-if-you-want-to-change point: One way or the other, you are making those tiny changes.  The question is, what direction are they taking you in?  Toward what you want or what you don't want?

I've had people in my classes say they don't want to lose only 10 pounds in one year.   So, I 'allow' them to gain 10 pounds instead.  Remember, the weight did not jump out from a darkened alley and land on you.  It crept on, one tiny change at a time.  (Yes, there are exceptions to that statement but that's what they are, exceptions.)

So, the weight, for it to really, really be gone for good, is going to leave one tiny, inner and outer change at a time.  Of course, sometimes dramatic amounts of weight will go and sometimes, it will seem to take a long time.

Now, if will-power isn't the answer to losing weight, then what is? 

Well, will-power is the answer (sort of) but, not in the way you think.  And, there's one crucial ingredient that is needed that most people lack for their personal weight loss success recipe.

Let me ask you a question: If I asked you pick up a really heavy weight,  without any training, could you do it? 

You could try and then you'd probably fail and feel guilty about failing to reach completely unrealistic standards.

The preceding example is how most people view will-power and weight loss.  They think that if they just had one huge chunk of will-power then they could lose the weight.

Here's the truth and then the crucial ingredient: The truth is that weight loss is about using small bits of will-power here and there.  It is not about meeting an impossible, superhuman standard.

The crucial ingredient to making those small bits of effort really nutritious (good fuel for your mind and soul) is that you must use 'want-power' more than will-power. 

C'mon.  Tell me the truth.  You 'know' you should lose weight but aren't you more obsessed with the problem than the answer? Please really consider this question before giving 'your final answer'.

The question then is, how you can build your 'want-power' to take you toward losing the weight for good?

The answer is so simple, it's stupid.  Ready?  Focus on what you really, really want.  What you want must be stated in positive terms.  NOT  "I don't want to be fat."  Instead, tell yourself something like: "I must be thinner and healthier because I truly feel happier."

Remember though, if you attempt this approach for several months and keep running into roadblocks you are not a failure. You simply have deeper work to accomplish which you can do.  You must do.

Think about it.  If you have done everything sane and reasonable you can do to lose the weight (but not throwing money at fad ideas or taking dangerous stuff or using useless creams) and nothing seems to work then you have two choices: (1) Never change and invest horrible amounts of your soul into feeling miserable for a long time or (2) Face the fear inside and get past it. 

Remember these words: "You must do the thing you think you cannot do."  Eleanor Roosevelt is an amazing person.

In every case with my overweight clients who had an inside fear to be faced, they thought (and felt) that the pain of facing the fear was worse than actually facing it.  Please read the preceding sentence again and it may enlighten you to a unfair sentence you have been living under for a long time.

In fact, it might just be the fear that is the active 'want-power' in your life.

I have given you a lot of food for thought in this column.  You may want to come back and read it again.  Perhaps discuss it with your friends?

Whatever you do, never give up.  Hang in there.  Grit your teeth (doing so keeps you mouth closed and makes it hard to eat! ha ha ha)

If you think you could benefit with hypnotic coaching to help you build your positive 'want-power' and to properly use your existing will-power, then please click here to see hypnosis products that can help.

And remember, feel free to contact me and I will do what I can to help.  Please note that due to a busy schedule I can only spend about 15 minutes chatting with you but, you'd be amazed at what can happen in short amounts of time.

Warm Regards,


PS, check out this article: How To Eliminate Self-Sabotage with NLP

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